Wednesday, October 3, 2012

10 Ways to Deeper Intimacy with God, your Hubby & your Kids

By Cheryl Moeller

If you are too busy to do these some of the 10 Ways to Intimacy, then you are too busy.

1.  Read out loud to your kids.  First of all the Bible.  Let them hear your voice and daddy’s voice.  Missionary’s biographies, stories of great Christians, and stories with characters of strong character.  Memorize long portions of Scripture over a year’s time.
"Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." Matthew 19:14
2.  A. Make a homemade sauna in your bathroom (shut the bathroom door and windows and turn the water on with no plug in the tub, the hottest possible which now make you stay in there at all times with the hot water running) and all sit on the floor on towels to bond in your PJs or swimming suits. 
B. Old slow life down southern tradition.  Draw a bath for a child.  Mom sits on the floor on a towel and talk.  Talk a whole lot less and let them talk.  Tell a short story from your childhood.
that He will never leave us or forsake us.” Hebrews 13:5
3.  Family Traditions that don’t cost you any money.  Example:  Wrap all your ornaments after Christmas, so when you open the Christmas decoration boxes, you unwrap each ornament and oooou and aaaaa.
For God hat not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” II Tim 1:7

4.  No more Herd Mentality.  Your children are not a herd; every hour cannot be spent as a herd group.  You don’t have to go places that cost money.  Once a month one-on-one with each child.

One-on-one with first child with dad.  One-on-one with first child with mom.  One-on-one with first child, dad, and mom.
One-on-one with second child with dad.  One-on-one with second child with mom.  One-on-one with second child, dad, and mom.

” I will give them one heart and one way, that they may fear me forever for their own good and the good of their children after them.” 
Jeremiah 32:39

5.  Your Church is a Steak and Lobster Fest
– What a wonderful church in a wonderful place.  My advice to you – Be the church want to attend.  To your child, your complaining about your church on the phone, in front of them, to others including your husband is like your complaining in front of them about God.  They can’t separate out the difference and is there a difference?
”And I tell you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it.” Matthew 16:18
6. 10 times a day give a hug and/or kiss to your husband and kids.
“Love and faithfulness meet together; righteousness and peace kiss each other.”
Psalm 85:9-11
7. Two pictures of each child on their bed stand  A. I am loved – picture of each child with a picture of their family. For the purpose of included/belonging, intimacy, and being loved.  B.  I am capable – picture of each child with soccer ball or chef’s hat or in a swimming suit. 
“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John 13:34
8.  Decide today that you can’t have it all. Time is the new wealth. We didn’t want to end up relationship poor.  Life does not consist in the abundance of things. 
How do you find contentment?  All it will cost you is your misery.
For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors.” 1 Peter 1:18
9.  Be the over the top parent where it really matters. 
”I am your servant; give me discernment that I may understand your statutes.” Psalm 119:125
10.  Prayer makes our home a house of God.  Your home can be Bethel – the House of God. Makes your marriage solid, which is the greatest gift you can give your children.
“Then God said to Jacob, “Go up to Bethel and settle there, and build an altar there to God, who appeared to you when you were fleeing from your brother Esau.”
”So Jacob said to his household and to all who were with him, “Get rid of the foreign gods you have with you, and purify yourselves and change your clothes. 3 Then come, let us go up to
Bethel, where I will build an altar to God, who answered me in the day of my distress and who has been with me wherever I have gone.” Genesis 35:1-3

Can you change your world, your home, your mothering in one hour?  Yes you can!
What are some steps I can do today to change my chaotic life?
Why are you busy? What are you busy with? 
 Are you a victim of your own success? Are you a victim of peer pressure?
Are you the adult?
Are you good at making excuses? Are you hopeless, helpless? 
Are you making the Error of Fatalism (a pagan religion)?
Get a new calendar and put in God, family, church, church related activities including family outreach, family time 5x a week /nesting/all family members home all together (not on the phone or texting.)
Schedule mama papa date. Schedule mama papa intimacy.
Schedule free time.
“Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.” Colossians 4:2
Cheryl Moeller copyright 2012,, 

I would love to come and do stand up comedy for moms and a challenge to moms guarding against busyness.

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